The Sobriety of Grief
At this point in life, most people have experienced some type of grief. Whether it be a family member, friend, or co-worker, pet, job, money, assets, the losses all affect us the same. Some affect us greatly while others may not make a difference yet the thought of knowing there is a loss is traumatic. We sometimes never know the true value of things, people, and opportunities until we no longer have that option to choose. And afterwards we are left to deal with those things alone. Sober.
True enough tools are available and whichever vice you choose to cope with is your rite but the sobriety in that grief is solely yours. Eventually, it will take a toll on you. Eventually, it’ll be your job to pull yourself together and nothing in this world will allow you to escape getting over anything. Overwhelmingly truthful, do things become as we attempt to make the reality comprehendible. Yet the harsh reality about grief is that you never get over it, you simply find the strength to learn how to live without. “Lord, why?” we often think yet most answers take longer to receive. All we know is that we want the pain to stop. Physically, pain can be tolerated and over time soreness lessens. But that emotional pain runs deep and leaves us with scars forever.
The best possible way I’ve known to get through grief is to embrace it. People don’t always have the words to comfort because grief is a personalized emotion. I can’t tell you how to heal no more than I can tell you how to feel. The best way I can help, is be there for you when you need me. It’s not always about expressing half-hearted words yet your willingness to be present in the moment. Because grief ways so heavily, often those who are going through won’t realize the progression they are making. Taking each stage of grief one day at a time us worth more than we acknowledge. And if you’ll have me, I’d like to say a quick prayer for you…
Dear Heavenly Father,
I come to you as humbly as I know how, and I say thank you. I thank you for the many blessings you’ve afforded us even when most times we’ve been unworthy. God, I ask for the comfort of those who are hurting and heavy burdened, for only you know each issue we hide behind. God, I ask for peace that passes all understanding. I ask that you give resilience where there is resistance. I ask that you give protection where there is fear. I ask that you allow faith where there is uncertainty. I ask that you give space and time where there is impatience. God, I pray your love over those spirits and hearts that are broken. I ask that you give strength where there is weakness. Most importantly, God I pray for your light for those who have lost their way. God, we need you, urgently, like we’ve never needed you before. I pray that hearts don’t grow cold and hard nor ears go deaf when the presence of the Lord is upon us. I pray we stand strong in this fight for we have far more battles to win. I ask all these things in Your Son’s name I pray. Amen.
Rest well, Tristan A. Quarrell
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